What Bothers me and Why

It bothers me that I hate feeling like I can’t ask questions. I’m not sure if this stems from being silenced as a child or what, but both personally and professionally, I struggle to ask questions.

It’s hard for me to ask my boss a question because I don’t want to seem incompetent. This could be because at my last job my boss would yell if you asked anything, but it bothers me that it’s so difficult for me since my current boss has never given me a reason not to ask.

It’s hard for me to ask my partner why he’s doing something I maybe don’t agree with. I’ll have just a long list of questions in my head that I won’t ask. And it has nothing to do with him; he’s never made me feel bad for asking questions. I just get so scared to ask them. Sometimes it’s easier for me to type things than verbally say them, so I’ll do that occasionally, but the list of questions I haven’t asked seems infinite.

Do any of you have this problem? Let me know in the comments.

2 responses to “What Bothers me and Why”

  1. Hey me too, I feel the same. There’s a lot of questions I want to ask (relationship wise) but didn’t because I think that it’s me overthinking. Personally, I think it’s because I reflected on myself way too much and didn’t see the situation in a realistic way. When someone else is at fault, I always turn the blame towards myself. Well, I just want to say I can relate to you. And recently, I try to be more honest about my feelings (it’s hard) but small steps I guess.

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    1. Yes exactly! The overthinking is a huge part of it.

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